"If being with someone requires you to forgetting about yourself and focus on your partner, then doesn't that make you unhappy at the end? "You cant be your complete self and loving and being insync with someone else, somethings has to be change i guess thats why some people say you have to loose yourself to love better. how can you expect to be the same person you were because and still try to deal with another personality. how can you still act out with your boys and come home to your girl later and act the same. how can you wild-out with your girls and act the same with your man. When you'r involved with someone, it means you willing to compromise your characteristics to make it work. Adam lost his rib to get Eve.you loose yourself or part of you to become one with the one you love. its no longer about you, its about both of you.
-*im not an expert just optimistic*-
some quotes and bible verses. Hope you all enjoy and apply them to your [love] life...
Lauryn hill- Loose your self
the lyrics to this chorus are" i had to loose myfelf so i can love you better"
Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. (NIV)
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. (NIV)
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (NIV)
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (NIV)
Proverbs 10:12
Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs. (NIV)
Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs. (NIV)
Proverbs 15:17
A bowl of vegetables with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. (NLT)
A bowl of vegetables with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. (NLT)
Song of Solomon 2:16
My lover is mine, and I am his. (NLT)
My lover is mine, and I am his. (NLT)
The question is often asked: How much of me am I willing to lose. Christ stepped down from heaven losing all his glory to save us. By doing this, it allows us to be where he is. What does that say? At times we must lose a piece of ourselves to gain who we love. We may gain what we lose back with in time and with moderation. However, the purpose of a spouse is to have that person fill in the gaping hole that has been lose. Remember, we had friends before and we should continue to have those friends after. The only difference is the time you spent with those friends....At the end of the day I belong to YOU and YOU belong to ME!!! - Mr. Sams
ReplyDeleteThe time spent and the things you do with those friends. Adam was by himself and thinking for himself, as soon as God gave him Eve it was about them two, he care for her and loved her and when she offered him the fruit he took it, not because he wanted to because he wanted to make her happy.
ReplyDeleteVery true, however that was a perfect union. Once sin enter the picture they were no longer a perfect union, hence Adam worked and Eve bear children...Separated and un equal in status. Relationship is a partnership, Adam needed a partner and God saw it. But the mistake Adam made was he tried to make Eve happy before him trying to make God happy. Trying to please God is NO#1 Priority and Pleasing your mate is 2nd. Once that balance is met, perfect union!!! - Mr. Sams
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ReplyDeletethank you Mr.Sams
De rien, MissDee - Mr. Sams
ReplyDeleteI believe once you cease to being your complete self, you cease to be true to yourself and start to become unhappy. Lot marriages end because this unhappiness builds up; and there is no other choice but to part ways. You shouldn’t have to change who you are to be with someone. If anything, love should make you want to be you (the better you). It should not push you to hide your “characteristics to make it work.” The key words here are compromising, compassion and honesty. Compromising not to change what you are, but to giving in when needed to. Compassion to acknowledge your other half, and honesty to sharing it all. Understanding that it’s no longer about you, but about the both of you does not mean you should lose who you are or part of what you are.
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